“Because I Know Who I Am!”

One of my all-time favorite movies is “Moonstruck” with Cher, Olympia Dukakis, Nicholas Cage, et al.   Each character is so deeply developed that it’s as if I know them from another time in my life.  Cher is outstanding in her role as Loretta.  It’s hard to imagine a more versatile actor.  That scene at the Met when she is listening to the aria and the tear trickles down her cheek is one that I won’t soon forget.  She is positively stunning.  And that line, “…and one day you’ll be dead and I’ll come to your funeral in a red dress!” is also one that brings tears to my eyes and makes me laugh till it hurts. 

But one of the most meaningful scenes for me in that movie was the one in which ”Rose” (Olympia Dukakis) is walking home with “Frazier’s dad” (apologies to him but I can’t pull up his name at the moment) and he is trying to get an invitation into her house to “warm up”.  She said “you’re a little boy and you want to be bad”.  He persists and then she tells him why it isn’t going to happen…she said “because I know who I am!”.  What a moment!!  

Is there anything more important to one’s self-confidence than knowing “who I am”?  Yeah, I am a baby boomer so finding myself was something that we all talked about and probably tried to do in different ways. Some of us hitchhiked to Berkeley and listened to The Dead, Grace Slick and Janis; some of us sang in Baptist youth choirs; some of us read Plato or other philosophical writing.  I think that this search is a life-long process that is similar to self-actualization; we never really get there.  There are many roads to this knowledge, whatever it ends up being.  No one road provides the full answer but in my experience seems to be cummulative with some particularly poignant punctuations.  But it is wonderful to hear someone say with confidence, “I know who I am” and you see some of the evidence of it with the congruency with which they live their lives, with the full range of emotional expression and the ability to give and receive love. 

One of the outcomes of Life Coaching can be a clearer and more exquisite sense of “who I am”.   The process of coaching can lead to greater self-knowledge even if the ultimate goal is to make concrete behavioral changes in one’s life.  One will find greater self-awareness when engaged in an extraordinary coaching relationship.  Whether this is a main goal or this is a by-product of the process toward a more concrete goal, this is value-added. 

I welcome the opportunity to speak to those who would wish to experience such a relationship and make powerful changes that can make for greater joy and pleasure.  Contact me at robkeith@sover.net or call 802.373.3547.  I am ready to talk to you about what you really, really, really want for your life and am ready to help you create it now.

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